God’s Preventative Maintenance for Marriage

Have you ever wondered what God thinks about Marriage?  Learn 5 truths about God gives us about marriage. We know that marriage and the home is what He instituted for us.  A tragedy in our churches is we have adopted a world philosophy instead of a biblical view on some very important issues.  Divorce is one of these issues that a lot of believers have a understanding and solution that is not biblical.  In Deuteronomy 24 we get to see how God intended a marriage to be and He gives practical measures to ensure a biblical marriage.

“When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife. And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance. When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.”
Deuteronomy 24:1-5

 

The temptation to adopt world’s point of view is nothing new.  In the Gospel of Matthew chapter 19 the Pharisees came to Christ, tempting Him about the matter of divorce.  Christ responds by taking them to Genesis to define marriage, then He references our text.  Christ explains that because of the hardness of their heart, Moses wrote this.  These verses show me that it is possible for my heart to become so hard that I disregard God’s word. 

Verses 1 through 4 is dealing with the laws in regards to divorce.  The church often lives in these verses, looking for some way that God will permit they way of thinking.  However, when you get to verse 5 you find God’s preventive maintenance for marriage.  We should be looking to prevent divorce, not a way to convince God to permit it.

In verse 5 God gives us His instructions on how to prevent divorce

  1. The Priority of Marriage – “he shall not go out to war”
    God is showing them that marriage is more important even than national security. He is teaching us that our relationship with our spouse is more important than any other human relationship. What will you do this week to your spouse know they are your priority?
  2. The Protection of Marriage – “neither shall he be charged with any business”
    I Peter 3:7 “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,” The word honor means valued more than anything else. The wife is intended to be the queen of the castle and treated as such.  In your life what do you honor?
  3. The Provision for Marriage – “he shall be free at home one year”
    This doesn’t mean for the first year that the husband is free to do nothing and the wife everything. This means that for the first year of their marriage they are exempt from taxes.  For a lot of homes, the first years are the most financially difficult adding stress to the marriage.  God was looking to prevent divorce by removing one of the biggest struggles a new marriage faces.
  4. The Pleasure in Marriage – “and shall cheer up his wife”
    This word cheer means as happy as happy can be. I’m sure most wives after their first week of marriage is wondering what they have gotten themselves into.  Most are happy when their boys get married and leave, because the boys eat a lot, typically are not clean, and often are rude.  But for daughters most dads believe there is not a man good enough on earth to think about marrying his little girl.  Now going from being the princess to living with a man who only thinks of himself, God knew she would need to be cheered up and He instructed her husband to do so.
  5. The Permanency of Marriage
    Verses 1-4 is God’s warning about divorce. Verse 5 is the preventative maintenance to avoid verses 1-4.  We recently experienced some winter weather.  Before the storm came I made sure to take some time and prepare my generator.  Go through all the routines to ensure it is in working order.  We do this because after 9 inches of snow is on the ground and we are out of power it is to late to work on the generator.  We prepare when there is no storm, so we are ready when there is one.  Verse 5 is God’s preparation so when life becomes difficult (and it will) we are looking for divorce but instead we can go through it.